Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Love: Tricks Of The Trade
Yesterday I casually mentioned to Doug an article I read about more women getting divorced due to their husband's inability to pick up after themselves. He promptly stood up and rushed over to properly close our closet door, which has been the bane of my existence for some time. I guess I should make up fake articles more often. Tonight I may invent one about women needing more back massages. Whoever said honesty was the best policy, didn't know the benefits of lying.
Marriage manipulation aside, I have been pondering marriage and divorce. Not my own mind you. My Mother has assured me divorce is not an option for us. I'm the only immediate family member never divorced, so there's a lot of pressure on me to make the family look good. When I'm the hope for my families reputation, you know there are too many nuts in our tree.
Marriage is a heck of a lot of work. Our infertility certainly didn't create a stress free environment, nor has adoption. I believe though as long as I can look at my husband every morning and know without a doubt he's my best friend, we're solid. No one makes me laugh like Doug. We have the same awful sense of humour which makes us amusing to each other, and annoying to everyone else. Fortunately, we also share a mutual disregard for the opinion of others.
Love isn't simple. Disney lied, or at the very least left out a few sequels. Love however is worth the effort. We can all choose to make our relationships or marriages pleasant or exhausting. In that, I also include our relationship with ourselves. If you've not in love with yourself, you're missing out on the most rewarding relationship of all. I take myself out on a date night every few months. The conversation is exhilarating, and I always buy myself flowers. So I dedicate today to love. To the effort of love, the joys of love, and the magic of love. J xx